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Domestic Abuse Is Not Love 

By Henry Johnson LR 



In some countries battering a woman is deemed admissible, even sound. The right of a husband to batter or physically frighten his spouse is a strongly upheld conviction in many cultures. Well, for some men who batter their spouse, I want to tell you that you need help. Serious help. Domestic abuse is not LOVE. 

It is the front cause of injury to women. This violence isn’t resulting from the hands of a stranger but from the hands of the men that have said I love you. Love is not ABUSE. When he abuses you, it's time to draw that line and move on to something better. Love is not degrading speeches, control, fear, intimidation, and cruelty.

I grew up in a Liberian household where my Mom and Dad never fought. The idea that it is an African (Liberian) culture is insane. Or maybe, I would come to think that my father wasn't African enough or perhaps, civilized to realized that my mother was just as "human," because he never, one day, did batter her. I never saw that until his passing. 

I never saw that until his passing.Those weren't Congaus' Values that he was taught but a "Liberian One." It's inhuman for anyone to think, be it African, American, or whosoever, that women are tools or are not as equal as men. That they may be submissive in all cause and their will should be your will, and if, defer, catastrophe at the forefront.Through my father's decent actions towards my mother, I have come to understand that TRUE LOVE survives when the parties are treated with RESPECT.

I also come to understand that "LOVE" is not sexual. It does not envy. It is bigger than we are. It is letting the one you love be "FREE." Free to be themselves, with, or without you. Through the years, and the time my parents were together, I have seen "FREEDOMS" not abuse. I also come to realized that "LOVE" is not the amount of money you styled her with. Love cannot be confined nor can it be constituted. Any violence against a woman could be violence against one's sister, mother, nieces, and aunties. 

Dear good women, raised your men to respect women who they say they love. Raised them to understand that love is not abuse. It's allowing "differences" to speak. For you men or women who might read this and find yourself in this situation. Find hope within your struggles. Never settle for an abusive relationship.#Stop Violence against WOMEN.#PASSITON! 



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